Hi Kate.
I am not sure if I am the Steve you are talking about, but I want to give you a reply.
First of all, there are many option strategies. What strategy are you using? For instance, you can speculate by going long on an option. Also, there is selling covered calls or puts, which are also popular strategies. There are also combinations of options in all sorts of complex trades.
If you are just starting, I would recommend a very simple strategy. The two simplest strategies that I know of are 1) going long on a call and 2) selling covered calls.
Selling covered calls would be the most conservative, but it also depends on the stock. Going long on a conservative stock can be safer than selling a covered call on a volatile stock, so it depends.
You may be getting differences in the predicted profit vs realized profit because of volatility estimates, and also volatility changes. There's also the greeks, or delta, gamma, theta, vega, etc, which measure degrees of change in an option price vs. the price change in the underlying security. These greeks change not only with the stock selection, but also which option contract you buy (in the money or out of the money). So it can be tricky to predict exactly what will happen between an option price at any moment vs the stock price. It is frustrating to see a large move in the stock price and only a fraction of that move is represented in the option price. Generally, the largest moves in the option price would be for ITM options closer to expiration and less movement in the price of OTM LEAPS, for example.
I am a fairly conservative guy when it comes to options, so my main strategy is covered calls, but my second strategy is buying ITM or close to the money LEAPS. Right now, I am looking at interesting positions in the jan09 calls, for example. Buying calls is pretty risky due to the time decay, so I tend to go long over longer periods of time. When I speculate on short term calls, it is usually on some event as a catalyst within the month, and that feels like gambling, almost. I sell covered calls on months close in and buy the LEAPS.
For more complex strategies or frequent trading, other more experienced traders would need to help you with that.
Good luck.
Steve