" I can't tell you how many baby boomers with substantial incomes and assets that I know who are putting their parents in medicaid nursing homes when they could afford to pay for a place for their parents, it would just mean scaling back their lifestyle some. Why should they when they can get medicaid to pay?"
RE: Well, maybe, but First hand experience?
1. The Mother-In-Law syndrome.. No way Her and my Wife got along.. always Fighting, she was more like the Mother of 2 1/2 Men TV show..and always sarcastic..We tried for a Month and never worked out.. then Off to a senior Apartment Complex and she was very Happy and then to the Nursing Home for another Yr.. before she died..
2. Dad- Insisted on staying In His ( built his own) home, had the money to do it, after my mother died.. He lived there for next 8 yrs before getting Cancer.. Still Stayed in it for another Year with the Help of us Kids comming and going and Hospice Care... Even after neumerouds offers to come live at any of us kids homes.. We respected his Wishes... He died in HIS bed... as he wanted too..
3. Aunt- She first went from House to Retirement Complex, then got partical Companion service then 24 hr Live In Companion service until she had to had Medical supervision 24/7 and thus the Nursing Home was the Only choice..
Medicare doesn't pay for normal -maintenance care, just for If needs Medical care... you pay until then and in most cases, by the time that is needed? Most don't live beyond a Yr or 2..
That's why these Long Term Care Ins. Plans tell you> Only need to buy a 2-4 yr pay plan.. and yes there are exceptions.. based upon each individuals situation..
And do you really want to be Around your Kids & Grandkids, 24/7 while your dying? From having Accidents in the Hallway, Living room, Throwing up at the Dinner table, etc.. And you best both Know CPR and have the Defibulator kit as well... Just think of the mental Impact on them that would have-for the rest of their life..I know from a Man's Point of view (of not wanting to be a burden to being embarr-assed )... at least I don't..
And although you think you can do it? The stress & depression eventually wears you down ( My sister lost it many times and my Brother just couldn't cope to start with)
And I'd rather have some Young Lady take care of me! Those Latino girls were Great with my Dad and My Aunt..I tipped ea. of them $50 wk and Both Dad and My Aunt were very happy with them..they knew at anytime, they could bail and come to my place, etc..but didn't want too, especiall meeting others of their own age to do things with..
With the Advent of these 3 level of care , +55 places? I think could be the Answer.. for many that can afford them..I plan on it myself..